You may have noticed that I generally use the word "attractive" to refer to good-looking women. This isn't something that I only do on the blog, I've also been doing it in my personal life for the last few years.
Adriana Lima could walk down the street and the most you'd get out of me is "She's a very attractive woman." In fact, it occasionally stuns my female roommates when I'll describe someone as "attractive", which has a modest sound to it, and then they'll see a picture and they'll be like, "uh, YEAH, she's attractive."
But on college campuses across America, it's the exact opposite. Frat boys use words like "hot", "bangin", or "perfect" to describe women. They hype physical attractiveness instead of downplaying it.
This is a huge mistake.
Men would be better off if we dropped these words from our vocabulary altogether because they pollute our mind. They strengthen our desires, and by doing so, make us slaves to them. Better words are "attractive", "good-looking", "cute", or in special cases, "totally cute".
As with anything concerning sexuality, you can always flip the script. It's not actually a good idea for women to refer to a wealthy man as "rich", "filthy rich", or "loaded." When I hear these words coming out of a woman's mouth, I think one thing. Better words are "well-off", "well-to-do", or "successful."
Again, for both men and women, this advice is in line with Old Money, which tends to downplay over-the-top displays of wealth and uses more modest language. Men who use over-the-top language to describe women's looks are signaling that they haven't spent a lot of time around someone with such a large biological inheritance. If you want to fit in, best not to bring it up.
It takes practice, but anyone can do it.
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Note: The original idea for this came from a blog that is difficult to link to because of intentionally offensive content.
